Dealing with people who criticise you

They can start with little things, like pointing out that they don’t like your shoes or your haircut, but soon they will be taking the thing you’re most passionate about and making you feel terrible about it.

You need people in your life that can tell you the truth and warn you if you are doing something wrong, but you don’t need judgemental people who will always look down on you.

You will never feel free and comfortable to act like the real you around such negative people, and if you can’t be yourself around them, why be around them at all?

But again, if you absolutely have to be around people who like to criticise, here are several things you can do to deal with them better:

Don’t take it personally. Yes, they are criticising you, but not your whole life and everything you do. Just a tiny little part of you, which does not represent your personality.

Remember that constructive criticism can help you grow. Being aware of shortcomings will make it easier to work on them and become an even more amazing person.

Ignore false criticism. Know the difference between destructive and constructive criticism. If you stay detached and ignore unjustified criticism, it will have no influence over you.

Don’t respond to criticism immediately. Feelings of anger or injured pride may stop you from thinking clearly. So just take a few deep breathes, go for a walk and calm down.

Accept that you’re not perfect. Everyone has flaws. Nobody’s perfect.

Try to be less sensitive. Control your emotions and don’t let people hurt your feeling just by criticising you.

Smile 🙂 Even if you don’t mean it, it will help you relax and stay positive.

Carole x

Mindfulness Practitioner , self care and life coach,