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Time for Reflection

How’s everyone feeling about these first 7 months of the year? I felt like it was a great time to reflect on some of the lessons learned so far, and to set intentions for what I wish to create for the rest of the year.

One of the best lessons has been to stop questioning and quieting my truth. If something feels wrong, speak up. If something is bothering you, speak out! Your voice matters, honour the truth that lives inside of you.

Another one is to acknowledge that it is completely okay to say no to things that don’t serve you. You don’t have to feel guilty about saying no, you don’t have to make excuses, and you don’t have to feel regret or remorse. Honour yourself by saying no, and not looking back. Create boundaries and stay true to your values.

It is okay to disappoint people, and you will disappoint people. When you start to say no, and honour yourself, there will be people who don’t like it. This is okay. It is not your job to make other people happy or live up to other people’s expectations.

Live your life for yourself, and stop seeking other people’s approval. We spend so much of our precious energy seeking validation from the external world. And for what? Let’s spend more time creating what we wish to see and less time worrying what other people think about it.

Measure your relationships by quality not quantity. You don’t have to have a large inner circle to be loved, valued, or appreciated.

It’s okay to let people go. Not all relationships are meant to stick with us for the entirety of our lives, it’s true what they say that relationships can be with us for a reason or a season. Know that it’s completely okay if relationships end.

It’s okay if people don’t like or understand you. Don’t take criticisms personally and know that people view life through their own unique, personal lens.

It’s okay to not have life completely figured out. Because none of us really do, and that’s what makes life interesting.

Take Care

Carole X

Mindfulness and self care coach

Carole Haywood-Poole